Clyde Nolet Bends Steel to Teach Real, Lasting Strength

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Welcome back to You Matter Nashville. I'm Jason Hoover along with my absolutely beautiful wife, Mindy. And today we've got a special guest. We're excited to sit down with Clyde Nolette. He is the creator and driving force behind Speaks of Strength. Now, Clyde is an old world entertainer with new world sensibilities, blending classic strongman tradition with modern insight to reveal timeless strength and timeless truth. Clyde, we're so glad to have you on the show.

Clyde, what you do is unlike anything most people have ever seen to kick things off. Could you share with our listeners what Speaks of Strength is all about? Of course. Well, first and foremost, I just want to thank you both for giving the opportunity to have a conversation today. It's very funny when you have a niche inside a niche. It's like if you're really good at a particular sport, you expect everyone in the world to know about it, but you're really the only one on earth who does. so getting it out there is

very important because it's something that we can all relate to. Speaks of strength is, on the surface, it's a clever pun because a feat of strength is hoisting something heavy above your head or doing a backflip or a handstand. And speaks of strength is more of a philosophy. And when I think of philosophy, it's what speaks of strength to you. Maybe it's being a good parent. Maybe it's being a good friend. Maybe it's being someone who's reliable, dependable.

Yes, physicality does go into that because our body without a strong body, it's hard to have a strong mind without a strong mind, it's hard to have a strong life. so speaks of strength itself is just an umbrella term for what it is that speaks to you about that inner strength. And then I do my part to guide and to nurture that and others.

So the strength part, no I'm good, I can do weight lifting and handstands and all of that fun stuff, right?

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Yeah, I'm on a sabbatical.

I can't do that. But yeah, so strength training, I know that helps with focus, that helps with your mental health as well. Now you take that a step further, right?

correct. Strength training is vital. Our body gets stronger by resistance. Our mind gets stronger by resilience. And our spirit and emotions get stronger by going through the pain or going through the challenges, the growth spurts of lives. And at the end of the day, you know, there's a saying that a healthy man has a million dreams and a rich man who's unhealthy only has one. And so our body

It really is everything. so when it comes to strength, I definitely take it in a different direction. Yes, I believe that it's fun to showcase and be entertaining, which is why I do old world performance strongman style, like ripping cards and bending nails and things like that. But really it's about emotional resilience. It's about, you know, real strength, as I like to say, isn't about how much you can lift, it's how much you can take from life.

when the phone call hits, when the deal goes down, when your dreams haven't showed up for work and your rent's overdue. That's when the real strength of life shows up. That's when we're really tested. And that's a muscle that, it's not a mirror muscle. It's not something you're gonna see on Instagram, but it's something that we all experience. And I think that we all can hone and make a little bit better, a little bit stronger. I agree. I agree. Especially this day and age, the past five, six years, there's been a lot of trying on the spirit, on the mind.

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I love

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from being shut up in a house to re-emerging to pre-COVID, post-COVID. mean, we've had issues with the economy, people being able to start out in life after college. mean, it's like it's hitting not just like one sector of people, like this tough mind stuff has been hitting across the board for the last five or six years, in my opinion.

But I think it's more than opinion. think we can look at the data. I mean, it's facts. If we look at the percentage of people who aren't happy, the percentage of people that are discontent with their lives and themselves. And the worst part of it is we're constantly conditioning. We're either conditioning others or they're conditioning us depending on how things go. And there's that old analogy where if you put a frog in boiling water, it's going to hop out. But if you slowly increase the temperature over time, the frog is going to boil to death without knowing it.

Well, that's exactly what happened to us during the pandemic is we were all locked in our houses and then slowly the temperature got turned up and up and up. And our internal resilience, our internal temperature went down, down, down. And now that's our new standard. Now the world's moved on and now everything's faster and AI is here and this is happening and that's happening. But internally we haven't bounced back. Because we're still living in that trapped.

truncated position of fear and of...

of fear and not being able to maneuver life. And so that's really unfortunate because we're expected to do more, be more, but most of us are still living a couple of years behind. Like our odometer doesn't measure up with our engine speed. Right. And, you know, we were watching TV this morning and they were talking to everyone about, can we dial our attitudes back to pre-

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know, 220, they're like, can we be nice to stewardess again? Like this was a story. They're like, can we stop hitting boiling points so fast? Because you know, it's like every day there's some viral sensation of people losing it in their car, in a, you know, on the airport.

Well, in the airplane, yeah, they said they hit a high point of it was over 5,000 aggravated incidents in the air and in 23. Yeah, in one year now it's back down to around 2000, which I'm like, okay, that's still not great, but it shows that it is declining some. But to your point, even though we're past the pandemic,

In one year.

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It's still wired in all of us. It changed the entire world like it or not. And so, you know, it comes to that we all have different paradigms because we all see things differently. But I want to get back onto what you're doing to help combat that. So you take your well, actually, I'm just going to let you share what is the old time

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strong man that you utilize for this.

Yeah, well, first and foremost, I just want to say that I used to do door to door sales professionally and that was years ago. So I'm real, I got lucky because if I was doing it now, I'd end up on the news or get a great somewhere because people don't have patience for that anymore. However, so when it comes to old time strong man, mean, most people today, when you hear strong man, you think of one of two things. You think of eighties action star Arnold Schwarzenegger.

Yes. Or you think about these meatballs of men and God love them. They're strong. They're strong and they're hoisting stones and they're carrying cars and and yes, that's strong man. The purpose of that is how much can you lift? How fast can you move it?

Pulling a diesel with your beard.

Oh, yeah. Exactly. These guys are incredible. They're absolutely incredible. It is a very tough sport. However, I'm 38. I'm not about to get into that realm. And I never really wanted to. For me, it's a combination of using strength to inspire and to entertain because as we know, we don't live in an information age anymore. We were drowning in information, but we're desperate for knowledge. But we do live in an entertainment age.

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And so if I can sneak a little bit of vegetables into the mashed potatoes, then I'm going to do that. And so that's what I aim to do. And so Old Time Strong Man is just that. About 200 years ago or so was the peak, 150 years ago. And so they would travel around in vaudeville theater with magicians and dancers and minstrel shows and entertainers.

and they would do church shows and they would do theater shows and circus tents and all those things. And what they would do is they would take everyday items people could identify with like a deck of cards or a sledgehammer or something. And they would showcase unbelievable feats of strength that people would be in awe by. And they would entertain, empower and educate. And the message underlining was always something like that strengths within you.

The good ones, some of the Charlottes is not so much, they're just trying to peddle courses, back then it was 30 cents a course or what have you. That hasn't changed too much. that's the message, that's the biggest message is universal truth is truth. If there's someone out there telling you that they're manufacturing antiques, I'd run, because that's not how antiques happen. So truth is universal, as are the seasons. And to your point earlier about how can we go back, well, after this,

clock strikes midnight, can spend a couple hours looking for extra time, but you're not going to find it. So we just got to move forward and understand that this is the season we're in. And some people ski in the winter and some people freeze in the winter. It depends on whether or not you're prepared. so mentally, physically, emotionally, for better or for worse, we're moving into a different season than we'd like. And we see the fear and the desperation of the people who lash out like a cornered animal as opposed to just

opening their heart a little bit. And that's kind of what I'm trying to do. So old time strong men, would do these things, but they were pulling on these big levers that they didn't understand so much where you break a chain for somebody and all of a sudden it creates this window where you can actually take opportunity of that and insert a new belief or ask a better question to kind of guide them. Like if I can break this chain, what can you do or what can't you do? And then you plant that seed and you let it grow.

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Well, modern day neuroscience just backs all that up. So essentially, I want you to think about high school, I talk about my high school. If I want you to think about your family, I'll talk about my family. And that's hypnosis. People think hypnosis is some spin golly figure with a chain and a watch. And sometimes it is if you're in Vegas. But hypnosis just means going inward. It just means that you're in an emotional state that's inward. So if you're listening to the radio, if you're

If they're talking about families, if they're talking about pain, if they're talking about Christmas, you go inward into that part of yourself. And that's where change really lives. It's very subtle. But again, in entertainment age, we need a little bit of spectacle as well. so, you know, the easiest way I can share with you is I like to use examples, which again is where the strength comes in. So there are

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52 cards in a deck. Do know how many weeks are in a year?

52. Wow.

I'm gonna have to take you on as my professional audience. Yes. I love it. I love the interaction. so, yes, there's 52 cards in the deck. There's 52 weeks in a year. And I use that as a beautiful analogy because here's what happens. Not to you and I, but most people is we spend a whole year stacking the deck with things like discontent, anger, frustration.

things i should do things the world should do we we sat at that so negative we can after week and then you build yourself a bad month enough bad months you have a whole year stacked against your dreams against what it is you feel you need to do in life and then this magical mystical thing happens called a new year and then we have a new year's resolution and people don't they don't start small they go for the moon they say i'm gonna write that book

I'm gonna lose 50 pounds. I'm finally gonna launch that strongman show. But then what happens is they're fighting all these, they've been driving around with their emergency brake on forever. they just, they can't do it. There's nothing they can do. Then they quit two weeks later. It's new excuse, same couch. And so I always, I ask why. And so what I like to demonstrate for people is, and a big part of it is because we've been conditioned

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to think that we're going to do it right the first time because we watch people's highlight reels. One of my favorite thing to do on social media is show how badly I mess up all the time because I didn't learn how to handstand until I was 33 or so and plenty of videos and he fallen on my head and I own that. I'm proud of that because that's the story. Nobody starts, you know, there's a great saying that the only job you start at the top at is digging a hole. And I agree with that. I like, so what I'll tell people is

Okay

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Let's say you take four cards, one month, four weeks of wins. Can you blast through limitation like that? Anyone can, it's easy. And the truth is when it comes to rewiring your central nervous system, when it comes to rewiring your inner dialogue, four weeks is all it takes to get that ball rolling in a positive direction. And then eventually you stack the deck with more positive phrases.

We stack the deck with self-confidence, with love. We stack it with gratitude, with a little bit of grace, because we can't do much without that. And we know that we're conditioning ourselves constantly not to be reactive, but to be proactive. So when you watch the news and you see the horrible, miserable things, well, here's the thing about the news. It's made to sell papers. It's made to get clicks. You walk by a newsstand and it says, everything's great, carry on. No one's going to spend a dime.

You walk by the newsstand and it says, your food is killing you. Well, all of a sudden the quarter goes in and now we've got to do that. And that's okay. That's their job. And we're all guilty. You our job is to counterbalance that. So I just teach people to stack the deck in a meaningful, positive way. And then when that new year comes around, more likely than not, instead of a new year, it's a new problem. It's a new challenge. Instead of fighting and getting into this internal struggle,

We just tear through it as easily.

my goodness. For those that are listening, he's tearing up a whole deck of cards here.

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as a deck of cards. And then I like to say, just in time for Christmas, we got to snow, right? But that's how I combine old world strength with modern day sensibility, because it's a vehicle to tell a story. And everybody can identify with not feeling like they're enough. Everyone can identify with feeling like they're not holding up their end of the bargain, as it were. And it doesn't help.

against this.

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that you have more information on your cell phone than the president had 20 years ago. We're living in the pinnacle, the golden age, but how do we use it? You the kids call it doom scrolling. We're comparing ourselves to everything everywhere all at once. I'm very fortunate because while I do, I'm a human being and I do fall into that trap sometimes, 99 % of the time I listen to podcasts like yours, I listen to

Wow, yes.

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motivational speakers, I listen to things that fill my cup instead of bring it down because ladies and gentlemen, the truth is your life is built from whatever you dump into your mind. And this mental factory can't build a life of purpose if you fill it up with nothing but garbage. And so we have to just be proactive and really just move towards our goals and dreams instead of try to shy away from them and say, I'll start tomorrow or

Amen.

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this five day fad or six day fad, it's the world we live in and it's understandable, but I promise you, what's good is always there and so isn't what's bad. So we just gotta find what's good and focus on that and be that shift.

Man, I tell you what, one thing, I love everything you're saying. You're like a walking quote factory. I need to go back through this and write down what you share because there's a lot of gold in what you just shared with everybody. yeah. And to your point about garbage in, kind of garbage out, I used to do, well, I still kind of speak and do some coaching, but not near like I used to.

But one of the things I would try to get through to the audience is that, you know, just like you have a diet and you change your diet according to what you want to accomplish. know, a could be a very unhealthy diet. It could be a very unhealthy and healthy diet. But the same goes with information. So I deemed it the information diet.

And if all you're doing is that doom scrolling and you're listening to all the, the anger and the negativity, guess what happens to you? You become angry, you become negative. And like you said, if you want to have a positive mind, you want to, you know, feel better, you've got to change that information input so that, you're being fed the good stuff. and you know,

Also, to your point about the media, the news, look at social media, look at Facebook, take for example, their algorithms look at what you watch or click on and they feed you more of that. So whenever you do click on that clip of people fighting, guess what you're going to get? You're going to get more fighting.

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Yeah, it's most definitely steered. And that's one thing I've talked to our kids about a lot is that we have all this steered, pointed viewpoints. yeah, you have friends who think politically different than you. And you're like, why are they so angry on their side? It's because you're not even seeing anything that they're seeing. You're seeing totally different viewpoints. And so we have this invisible

dividing factor that's going right in the middle of our country. And everybody's mad on both sides because it's just extremism being thrown at us. But you know, that's why you work really hard and make sure your feed is full of puppy dogs. And it's true. Me and my kids like we, I they're pretty much adults now. Yeah. mean, we pretty much pass around a puppy dog videos, a Harry Potter and really amazing.

like orchestra quartets and things like that. Like we're always, you know, but it's, it's just keeping those positive things pumping. And, and I try to spin past the negative because if you sit on it for just a second and it reads that you've been looking at that, you're doomed for the next few days. Like that's all you're going to see. They're like, she looked at this for five seconds. Let's keep on pumping it in that negativity. The challenge with life is, you know, I'm a big,

or

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as you might have picked up on. a big fan of symbolism and metaphor. And you don't have to plant weeds. Weeds will overtake your garden. So true. So what happens is all you got to do is not pull them out and just go ahead and sit on your laurels. And then there you go. mean, some people chant, there's no weeds, there's no weeds, there's no weeds. No, no, there are. You're just going to be proactive about weeding your garden. And I love what you said about that invisible wall, because that's true. In my mind, I just saw a mirror.

another one

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And on each side, there's someone staring at the mirror saying, how could you not see this? And it's because they're only seeing their own reflection and what they're getting fed back. And I guess I'm just built a little different. I'm very fortunate in that when I was 21 years old, I read a book called Man's Search for Meaning by Victor Franco. I suggest everybody on the planet read it. It's a true story. Mr. Victor Franco created was called Logotherapy.

with talk therapy. And he got to test it out because his belief was that all of life, we all have meaning and we can find meaning in one of three ways. We can find meaning through love, through work or through suffering. And Mr. Victor Frankl got to test it out firsthand because he spent four or five years in Auschwitz in the concentration camps. And so his book, Man's Search for Meaning, the first half is about the experience of a life of a prisoner and how even in the darkest

most miserable, dreary, things we couldn't even imagine. People living off of 12 ounces of soup and about eight ounces of bread a day, back breaking labor for seeming like 30 hours a day, all day and night, how they could still find purpose, how they could still find moments of happiness, there would still be music and all that. And Frank Law also talks about as they left the concentration camps, there was one moment that sticks with me.

where a fellow prisoner, it was spring, and he was ready to storm through a flower bed. And Mr. Frankel stopped him and said, you hey, let them grow, let them be. And he says, after all life took from me, after all the war took from me, you think I care? And he stomped right through. And Victor looked at that and said, he's still caged. He's still trapped. He's still a prisoner. And we can't let the pain of life cage us. We can't let the pain of life detract us.

And in that moment, 21 years old, decided I'm going to be a local therapist. That's what I'm going to do with my life. And then I did a little research. And to be a local therapist, you have to have a doctorate in psychology. And then it's like another three, four years of study. That's not really my road. But now here I am, know, 18 years later. So 17 years later, and I realized, well, I did it my way. But I did that. I took my heroes. I took my inspiration. And I'm doing my version of that.

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And the best part about operating outside of a system is no one can take my license. And I have a moral ethics. I do have standards and practices, of course. However, I don't have any, there's no lawman. There's no one who's gonna tell me how to do things or how not to do things. Because I'm a big fan of getting a result. And so we're gonna get a result.

I just looked at that book and of course, know, on Amazon came up first and out of it's on sale by the way, as always, but out of 3,000 or 3,800 reviews, it's got a 4.8. So that's,

It's life changer for sure.

Yeah, I'll definitely have to check that out. Um, you know, one thing going back to, um, the limitations that we put on ourselves, you know, I, uh, it made me think back to all of these, uh, these records continually get broken, right? Uh, whether you're running, uh, whether you are, um, you know, doing the Olympics swimming and well, you know, I'm a, I'm an Arkansas guy and

you know, both of us are and a Razorback fan. So our, one of our best, if not the best kickers of that we've had at the program, Cam Little, his rookie year is this year and he kicked the longest NFL field goal. I think it was a 60 yard, something like that. I don't know, but it, it was the longest and it was his rookie year. He just came in and he, he made it happen. So, and I remember.

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E.

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I don't remember what the announcer exactly said, but the premise was now that changes everything. That changes what coaches start to call it. Yeah, well it can be done, but you know, as a coach, you're leading your team. Well, if you're that far out, you usually punt it and give the ball back. Well, now they can see, well, they might be able to score three points off of that. So it does, it changes the strategy.

It can't be done.

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But tying that back in is, once we believe it can be done and we put forth that effort, it's amazing what actually gets done.

Well, there's a there's a great line in a great I used to live in Alaska. So this one's close to it. There's a movie called The Edge with Anthony Hopkins and Alec Baldwin is 90s. I a movie about him lost in the wilderness. Great movie. But they're being pursued by a Kodiak bear. And Anthony Hopkins kind of guy like me is he's got a lot of knowledge. He's got a lot of stories. He's like he's he was a rich, eccentric guy, but he lived in books about the wilderness.

And so he's telling stories about someone who took out a grizzly bear, Kodak bear, and he says, what one man can do, another man can do. And they repeated it over and over again. And I call it the Robert Bannister effect because Robert Bannister was the first one to break. I want to say the two minute mile. I'm athletic, but I'm not an athlete. But for thousands of years in Rome, they would pull people by chariots to try to break the record. Couldn't do it. This man did it with back then.

you know, she's a different they use a little bit of ash from the fireplace for starting line. 2 years later, 3 other people broke it now kids do it in high school because we're always moving that needle forward on when it comes to the Olympics. have men and women in every sport every year breaking categories setting new trends pushing that goalpost further and further and further and it's incredible because.

You know, first place in Olympics, you get a gold medal, get an epoxy Wheaties, you know, you get sponsorships. You're remembered forever and you deserve it. Second place, still great. Third place bronze, you're remembered. Fourth place, you're the fourth best in the world at what you do. No one remembers your name. And it's not fair. It's not, it's not fair, but the truth is because the world's so small now, because I can reach out and talk to

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Crazy.

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you know, like Toto blessed rains down in Africa. I can reach down and communicate with someone there right now on my phone. Because the world's so small, we have that Olympic mentality where you're either first, second or third, or you don't exist anymore. But the truth is, the truth is it's, we can take those examples and apply them to our own lives. Every, like you said, every year records are being broken and we're, as a coach, changing that philosophy. How are you applying that to your own life?

Thanks

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Are you not moving the needle every year? Are you not doing something that, you know, I'm a big fan of doing the impossible because at one point in time, what we do, we've all done the impossible. We just call it who we are. I noticed that you're both probably walking and you're speaking fine, but there was a time in life and it was impossible, right? I mean, there's a great line. How long on average, on average, how long would you let your child try to walk before you cut them off?

You know, you're making a fool of yourself. You're tripping all over the place. mean, just sit down. Just get a wheelchair. Just crawl. You obviously can't get this walking thing figured out. You do it, you do it, you do it. And all of a sudden, a lot of people walk and a lot of people drive and maybe some people shouldn't be driving. But you know, a lot of people doing things in life and it was impossible at one time. But it's just because it's who we are. And so we condition ourselves just to see others impossible. And it is always incredible.

It's always incredible when someone breaks a new plateau. The challenge is comparison is the enemy of execution. And so if you're comparing, if I'm comparing myself to Olympic athletes or, or movie stars or anybody except myself, well, I'm in a bit of a pickle because I can only control myself and I can only control compare myself to me of last week, last month, last year, instead of comparing myself with the best of the best because

I'm the best of the best at who I am. We all are. But it's a personal choice. It starts with that decision, I believe.

Right. So you're obviously a very wise man and you've studied under some very well-known people. Tell us a little bit about that and how you take that experience, that knowledge and wisdom and pour it into other people.

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Well, I love that. Thank you for asking. to back thread a little bit, my story is much like everybody in life. I didn't have the best childhood. I lost all my heroes when I was young. I lost my dad when I was eight. I lost my uncles, my aunts. Shortly thereafter, I lost my brother. so I always got my mentors are always people from books or

people that they're always up there and I was very fortunate that I what I say is I was raised in the footsteps of Giants because when you're just a little boy and you lose the people that mean the most to you in life. have no reference for what it means to be anything but a hero. It's you know, I see him as 15 feet tall in my head today. didn't have the ability to see them with false or those things and the reality is I blew them away a long time ago and a lot of different metrics.

but they're still my heroes because they'll always be my heroes. And so I grew in those footsteps of giants and my biggest hero now is my seven year old son. And when he was born, you know, I had bad back, had bad thoughts, I had vices, I had the things that people pick up. It's like we wear tape on the bottom of our feet, we just walk through life and we wonder why we pick up everything. That's because we're not really guarding ourselves too much.

But once he was born, said, it's time for a change. And that's when I took control of my body. And I really, for anyone who's interested in a real basic thing, the first thing I got certified in when it comes to the physical side of life, something called gold metal bodies. it's basically gymnastics for house moms. So you just learn how to do some locomotion stuff, bear crawls, and then you end up evolving in the backflips if you want to. But it's really, it opened my eyes to these

years of aches and pains I had evaporated within a few months because all of a sudden I'm in my body, I'm moving my body and you can call it chakras. So we can look at it from a facial standpoint, which is, know, if you ever cut some meat and you see some white skin on there, that's a facial sling. All our muscles have that, it's all interconnected. You can look at it in a million different modalities. It doesn't really matter. But the reality is...

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where focus goes, energy flows. So I started focusing on moving my body better. All of a sudden, I started thinking better. All of a sudden, I had more opportunities. And then COVID happened. And like everybody else, time in a bottle, right? There was really not much to do. And I saw it as an opportunity because my greatest mentor, Tony Robbins, who's the best in the world at business, personal development,

I mean, he sits on the United Nations Council for Mental Health. He's worked with every living president except one. And he's worked with Nelson Mandela, Mother Teresa. He's just the person to putting on that. He's a really incredible human being who's been doing this for 45 years. And just recently, Stanford University did a three-year study on him to find out what the science behind what it is. So he tested his biochemistry, his saliva, his blood work, and they tested people in his audience.

And the results are just absolutely astounding. They've never found anything like it. And he says, well, I know I've been doing it for 45 years. I know it works. But now they know why it works for those who are more cognitive based and they want to see the data. But in any case, when COVID happened, he decided to go virtual. Because he said, people are locked in their homes and they can't go anywhere. So how do I help them? says, no one's going to go to a

No one's going to want to do this virtually. I'm a stadium guy. But then of course, because his identity is I do the impossible, he had to do it. And that's the beautiful thing about identity is we don't rise up to our expectations. We lower ourselves to our standards. And so if our standard is I'm going to do this no matter what, I'm going to do this no matter what. And that was the greatest gift because I finally got my experience. I've wanted to do one of his events for years, but time, logistics, money, the same thing that happens to everybody.

And it blew the doors off my reality. was four days and nights, about 53 hours of just cranking and going deep and going deep. And it was, it was, it was like Scrooge, you know, it was, it all happened in one night. I had some of the past, the present, the future and how I could change it. And then from then I was, I was, I was hooked. I signed up for more courses. I got certified in his teaching style, um, which is what I, it's called human needs psychology. And I rely heavily on it because it's universal stuff.

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And from there, I remembered in the back of my mind that I always wanted to be a speaker. I always wanted to be a motivator. I always wanted to be someone who made an impact on others. Essentially, you know, we all want to be the mentor we never had. And I became the mentor I never had. And so I want to shade years off someone else's experience by just meeting them where they're at, finding out where they want to go and filling the gap between the two. And for me, like,

I'm okay, I like talking, I get excited, I love bringing the best out of people. But I can never see myself sitting on a couch and diagnosing somebody or doing that aspect. So I said, how do I have fun? How do I be me and bring this modality of healing to the masses? And that's where my Strongman show comes in. Where it's, all right, we're gonna learn in real time.

speaks of strength.

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how to control your emotional state. We're gonna learn in real time what goes into creating emotion and we're gonna have some fun while we do it. And then essentially it's become my infomercial. Hey, this speaks to you. I'll work with you. I'd love to work with you, but I'm not gonna sell you on why you should work with me. See the show and if you love it, then you know who you're dealing with. So there's no surprises. I think that's about the size of it. It's been a wild ride. It's been a beautiful ride and it's been nothing but uncertainty. But at the end of the day,

people who are certainty driven aren't the ones who seek growth because they're certain they can't find it. People who are uncertainty driven are more likely to take chances in life and because they don't know what's on the other side of that door and they might be a little fearful, but they know that there's something on the other side of that door and it could be the next, it could be exactly what they're looking for.

and you will always find what you're looking for, good or bad.

Yeah. Now, how do you help people shift into that high performance mode? how do you work with people like one-on-one or group setting? I know you work with like a larger group, but do you work with like one-on-one on some of these mental blocks? Yeah. So what I offer everybody is I don't do a consultation. I don't do a exploratory call. I do a results call.

because all it takes is one call in order to identify what it is you want and what it is that holds you back and then create a new version of you to get there. it seems, it might seem crazy or an over-celerated, but it's as simple as this. It all comes down to our emotional state. Our state determines everything. So if I were to offer you, say, if I were to give a million dollars to your favorite charity, Mindy, if,

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You could show me what depression looks like. Think you could do it?

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Maybe, yeah, maybe. Whereas it looks different. It's relative. It looks different on everyone. Well, I suppose I should have said doubt because that's where you went. when it comes to depression, let's think. So when you're depressed, you stand tall and breathe like this or are you a little more shrunken? Are you a little more, is your breathing deep and full or is it a little more shallow?

you

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You know, is your focus on what's amazing about life and the fact that you can climb the mountain or is your focus on the fact that you couldn't even tie your shoes this morning? What a, what a, what a loser. And what's the language that you use when you're in a negative state, a depressed state or depression doesn't necessarily need a clinical diagnosis to depress is just to bring down. You know, if we take it to etymology and so everyone on the planet knows what it feels like.

Hmm.

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to not feel your best, knows what it looks like. I call it emotional charades because you have to set yourself up in a certain way. If you want to be, you know, if you're in your head, if you're depressed in the sense of you're negative, you're down on yourself, you don't think you can make things work, you just, you're questioning life, go sprint for 15 minutes and then tell me how you feel because you changed your physiology. All of a sudden your biochemistry shifts. All of a sudden you have all these endorphins flooding.

And now you look at the same problem with different eyes. Or conversely, if I ask you, could you show me Christmas morning excited as a kid? Well, there's a rapid space between those two, but the ingredients are the same. It's how you move, our physiology, which is always comes first, which is why I prefer Strongman. It's our focus. Are you looking at what's right or what left?

And then it's the language that we use. Our language is everything. And when it comes to language or when it comes to that, you know, I take something like this. This is a 60D penny nail. It's a five inch spike. And I use this as a metaphor for the limiting physiology focus in language that keeps us trapped in life. Because people have, I call it the tyranny of should. I should do this. People should do this. Life should. We should.

The government should, the world should. And then, you know, I call it should all over ourselves because you don't get anywhere, right? But then again, but we want to make a life out of this. We want to do something. And so we say, yeah, you know what? I saw that strong man guy, Clyde, he did, I'll do it too. You know, and so we, we, we bundle up our hopes and our dreams and then we do everything we can, but they don't move.

Hmm.

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Well, if you don't think you're going to do it, then you're probably not going to do it. How's your physiology? Are you marching up the mountain? You know, there's a great saying I love where resolve, resolve means I will. And Benjamin Israeli said, it's the most powerful term in the English language, I will. know, nothing can defy a human, nothing can defy a human being's will. Who is willing to die for their purpose.

who's willing to sacrifice everything because it's who they are. You know, the man says, I will climb the mountain. Some say it's too rocky. It's too difficult. It's too hard. It's never been done before. Man says, it's my mountain. I'll climb it. I'll die trying pretty soon. You're to find me waving from the top or find me dead on the side, but I ain't going back. And that's a little extreme. Yeah. But from that emotional state, from that state, it's not a should, it's a must.

And so this impossible challenge, comfortable excuse for why we can't do the things we want in life, for why I'm just this way because I've been conditioned to believe it by social media, because I was diagnosed by someone with a lab coat and a clipboard, because when I was five or six, someone who I loved, someone who meant the world to me, told me I can't, and so now I just can't because that's how emotions work.

We can recondition ourselves to make a change. And what I always tell people is you can't tear through pain. You can't tear through limitations like a deck of cards. It's not that easy because it's hard to already know our central nervous system is who we are. However, you can change your story and you can change what it means. I always tell people you can take that pain, that rigid sense of self,

however

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and you can turn it into art and you can bend that pain.

And then you can use that art, that transformation with new understanding and new insights, and you can turn it into art, and you can inspire the world with that. And then of course, I like to tell people, it's the season, so this is an ornament for your Christmas tree. Wow. Not one you're gonna forget.

my goodness.

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What

So everybody that's not watching, he just bent that nail and that's amazing. Cause that's a pretty big nail. That was a spike. wow. I mean, you're, you're completely, just speaking, you know, my love language. I, I, I've always,

It's a spike.

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Well, I've shared this story before, but just the quick version was when I was 18, my brother who's nine years older gave me a book and I'm not, you know, I wasn't a book reader at the, at the time. And it was, um, how to win friends and influence people. And I knew nothing about self-help and any of that. I just threw it in my, um, nightstand drawer and it wasn't.

A couple of years later, I really don't remember, I was at home, had nothing to do. We didn't have social media. We didn't have the internet. And my parents never paid for cables. So I didn't know what was going on in the world. I pulled out this book. I was like, well, let's see what this is about. I didn't put it down. And that was when my life changed. So what you're sharing is, I just want people to know is so true. It's not just

had to entertain ourselves.

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It's not just words that you're speaking. This is absolutely true. changes people's lives. And it reminds me, have you ever, and you may, have you heard of P-T-FAR? F-A-R P-T-F-A-R?

Shout out to Dale Carnegie by the way. He definitely one of the best. He's one of the best. But no, I've not heard of P.T. Far.

So PTFAR, I love this. And the short version of this is that it's all about, going back to the info diet, you're picking up everything that's happening around you. All of our senses are picking up bits of information. And if it's a positive environment, you're picking that up. If it's negative, what have you, whatever you're feeding yourself. Well, what that does is the P is it's programming you.

It is programming you like a computer and you are the developer. Well, when you're programming or when you're programmed, that affects how you think about things. So it's your thoughts, PT. Your thoughts are your new reality. Well, when you have certain thoughts about things, you whether it's your self-confidence, your religion, know, whatever it is, that's going to make you feel

a certain way. So that's the F, it's feeling. when you're feeling a certain way, and we're emotional beings, right? So when we feel strongly about something, we're going to take action. So if it's, again, if we feel strongly about, you know, injustice, we like to take action on that to try to change it. Okay? So that's the A, it's actions.

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Well, guess what all these actions do? They give you a result, good or bad. So that's the R. So programming thoughts, feelings, actions, results. But here's, here's the thing. Those results, guess what that does? It programs you. So you keep going in this cycle. And I would tell my clients is okay. If the results are not what you're wanting,

Don't go try to change the results. Don't try to change the actions because that's harder than changing the programming. So you've got to start back with the program. So, I mean, that's just, that's where I went was like, wow, this is, this is also true. And I really want people to listen into this because we all battle. We all have, our own personal battles and you know, many of us, if not all of us have secret battles, right?

So please, please, please, heed Clyde's words because it is true.

And what I'd like to say to anyone listening is the biggest thing is this. Reasons come first and then the way comes second. If you have a big enough reason like, I want to lose, I want, I want a million dollars. Why? Why? What are you going to do with it? I want to lose 30 pounds. Why? Well, if your reason is so I never have to work again. Okay. Well, you probably have to work to get that million dollars. So let's start there.

Or if that reason is, I look good in a swimsuit, well, okay, well, age might change that at some point, sorry, but it happens to all of us. But if your reason for having the money is that you can make a, insulate your family, insulate your friends, generational wealth, contribute to others, build, support others on their mission who just need a little bit of capital, but no one believes them but you. In order to donate to the church who does more for.

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others than you could possibly imagine. If your reason is big enough, if you want to lose the weights that you get to see your great, great grandkids, if your reasons to lose the weights that you can honor your creator by honoring the body that was given to you, if your reason to lose the weight is that you can set an example for your overweight friends, that's going to get you so much further than the desire because the dicey thing about desire is I want the money, I want to lose the weight. And then you have this mystical, magical little

snake in the garden where everything you could possibly want is right there. I mean, go ahead. I'll give you 15 get rich quick schemes. I'll give you 16 diet pills and then eight week transformations. None of that matters. It's the why it's the why. And also you got to meet people where they are. You don't don't ever hold yourself to my standard. Don't ever hold yourself to anybody's standard. The reason I became this person.

is because they didn't exist when I was growing up. And I have four brothers, well, three now, and a very limited belief family. They all were born and died around the same town. I traveled, I have a little bit of a rebel. I went to every state in the country. I did it for them. I did it to show how easy it was in order to change. I wanted to be the example. I wanted to be the hero who comes back to the tribe of the torch.

I did it out of love. never did it out of significance. I never did it to be the hot shot. It might seem that way, bending nails and ripping cards, but it doesn't come from that place. If you try to fill your cup by being the best, you're always going to be fourth place. And remember what happens to fourth place. No one remembers it.

right. So your mom say second place is the first loser. mean that

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That's the mentality I was raised with. Yes. Monica. Yeah, it is. I got to push myself a lot as a kid. But yeah, it's a very, what's the word? A strange way, I guess, just to raise your children, to always be self-competitive with yourself. And another way to look at it, I mean, it's all in the frame. And that would be hard for me because that would put really high standards on myself.

Sarah Blakely, who's the first woman billionaire, I believe, made Spanx. Her father asked her and her brother every day, how did you fail today? And if they didn't have an answer, he'd be pissed because he expected them to try something new and lose in order for them to grow. love that. And so that pushed her in a different direction, you know. It is beautiful and it could have easily broke her. It might have broken a lot of people. But to her, I mean, she obviously is very well for herself based on that methodology.

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And yeah, if you're not first, your second best, or you're the first loser, know, sitting around the dinner table. I mean, can see that being a tough, tough one, but as an adult, we get to reframe this. We get to change the meaning. You know, I get to change the meaning of.

of my life, you know, the most painful thing that ever happened to me is the highlight of my performance show where, I lost my dad at eight, my hero, my everything. And I was at his wake and I kissed his forehead and it was cold. And it wasn't cold like snow. It was cold like the leather jacket he got buried in. And it broke my mind.

It destroyed my mind. I didn't know how to handle it. felt so in that moment I created what's known as a primary question. Now a primary question is a question that we ask ourselves in each and every moment of life. It's subconscious because when our central nervous system butts up against the fight, freeze or flight moment. It identifies the pain. And it avoids that pain at all costs. That's what we do.

Right. That's why we limit ourselves. That's why we have a governor. Like your car can't go a certain amount of speed because of the governor. Our central nervous system creates that governor in the sense of a primary question. So subconsciously, I always knew it happened, but subconsciously no one ever told me that that kind of coal doesn't go away. It just, digs a deep pit inside of your soul and it becomes a part of your identity. And so subconsciously,

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I created walls. tried to hide from myself, from the world, because I felt ashamed. I felt embarrassed. I was confused, obviously. And so I built walls and we all build walls and it's, it's fashionable to call them boundaries today, but it's really just a wall. It's a wall with what we want and what we think we can have. And then we're, strapped in the middle. Now what changed for me was about four or five years ago.

Mm-hmm.

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there's actually a Tony event. It was like day seven. He has long events and we went deep into our worst memory, earliest memory. For me, that was the most painful memory in my life. But Sigmund Freud, who was a famed psychologist, he found that healing of the pain, it doesn't come in analyzing the pain. It doesn't come in talking about it for three years on a couch. It comes from the moment before we gave that pain meaning.

before the central nervous system said that's those hot. I'll never touch anything hot again in my life because that hurts. Well, what was your intention in touching the stove? Was it to get burned and was it to hurt yourself or was it something different? And I realized that I had been living under this.

puppeteering act of fear and shame and trying to play small. Obviously I'm not a guy who plays small so that really never really worked for me. But it was that internal conflict of I don't want to be seen but I feel like I kind of have to be seen. And well I realized that.

In that moment at eight years old, I was just a little kid who wanted to say goodbye to his daddy.

And that doesn't take shame. That doesn't take blame. That doesn't take fear. That doesn't take anxiety and all that that I buried myself in. That takes love. That takes warmth. That takes strength.

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Yeah.

And when I realized that the intention was so much bigger than what my brain was lying to me about for decades. It opened the door for me to become who stands before you today. And that's my biggest thing is instead of growing around our problems in life, instead of saying I'm just this way because well, let's look at it with new eyes. You know, there's a great saying from Tony where he says if I had the mom I wanted, I wouldn't be the man I am.

So we gotta really be grateful for those moments, but it's our response. It's not our fault that life happens. Terrible things happen all the time to people. And it's all, you there's that saying that a toothache to a man means more to him than a million deaths in Africa. It's true because it's personal. And so what's happening to us is our frame of reference. Like there's always someone who has it worse off or better off, but that doesn't matter. It's all relevant to us.

But it's our responsibility to look at it and analyze it and to say, maybe it doesn't mean what I think it means. Maybe I've been lying to myself in my case for 26 years. Maybe that pain was really purpose. And it's my job to be a good archeologist and to dust it off and to be really gentle with it because you don't want to destroy it. You want to uncover it and then kind of use that as the centerpiece. And that ultimately is

You know, I see it as my origin story. know, Batman's parents got shot in an alley. Spider-Man lost an uncle and Clyde kisses dad goodbye.

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And looking back at that moment now.

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I don't know if I'd be here without that because I spent a lifetime trying to figure out pain and death. And those are the things that spoke to me on a deep level. And we are who we are. If you're listening to this, you're obviously someone who has similar interests or there's a party that can identify. Otherwise you'd be on your phone or you'd be on Netflix. Right. So that's the biggest thing. That's my message is a strong man knows weakness or else he wouldn't know strength.

Wow. I mean, I don't even know how to share anything else. I mean, it brought back so much just thinking through it. I'm sure a lot of our listeners just kind of started thinking back in their past as well and instances that have happened that have shaped us. Man, Clyde.

Yeah, that's a lot.

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or all of it, you know? And I was probably 40 years old. I mean, I'm not there yet, but you know, but I was probably 40 years old You got like 15 years ago. I'm saying. That I was able to look back on my past and not in shame or hurt, but in, well, this changed me and that changed my direction. How I respond to people is now different because of that, what happened to me in this part of my life. And

I think when you finally get to that, it's not really a point of maturity, but just been able to open up your eyes and go, I think a lot of it is taking the guilt and shame out. And once you take that guilt and shame out and you see your situation and what you learned from it, man, that recovery is strong. And I know that's for me, it took time. It took time to look past the negative parts of the situations that I've gone through and really

you know, pulling the positive out of it. And I think that's so much, I know that's the healing I have had over the years is just trying to glean the positive effects of what I've gone through and how I can help others as well. Cause if you just, if you go through everything and then you just sit in it, it means nothing. If you can help somebody at some point, just one person, you know, that's everything that's healing itself.

I think that's the power of identity is we always will bend backwards to be who we identify as. And if you're someone who feels like you suffer because you made to suffer, we'll buckle up because your brain is designed to do one thing and that's keep you safe. It's going to find what's wrong. going to set it to task. So the brain does three things amazingly well. It deletes, it generalizes and it distorts. So in any moment, like in this moment, you could focus on a million things.

You could focus on your heartbeat. You could focus on the hair in your ear. I know you wax your ears, but that's okay. You could focus on the hair in your ear and you could focus on the fan. You could focus on the hair on your arms. could focus on literally the sound of the windows creaking. But if you focused on everything all at once, you'd lose your mind. So we delete 99 % of things. And then we distort because the brain's lazy. So it's like, well, this is close enough to that. So I had this trauma where

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Let's just say that blonde women, they broke my heart. So every blonde woman, she's close enough to the last one so that I can't be safe around her. That's distortion. And then generalization is more of the same. It's men are, women are, people are, kids are, adults are, these are, they are. And then the brain does that. And then there's something called our RAS, which is our reticulary activating system. So great example of that is if you ever had a new car,

and all of sudden you see it everywhere. There's a song that you hear and you can't get out of your head. Now it's everywhere. Well, it was always there, but you never realized it because it was always in the background, never in the foreground. And so it's the same with our pain. It's the same with everything. And that's why I think it's so important to have a mentor who can guide you. It's a sherpa. It's your mountain to climb.

Or the

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He ain't getting nothing out of climbing the mountain with you. He's just like, no, I've done this before. Let me just guide you. Like, this is your adventure. This is your story. Let me just guide you there because you can get lost in the wilderness really easily. And unfortunately, a lot of us do. And God love everybody. you and I, Mindy, we just didn't quit. Like if I had the mentor that I needed then that I became for myself, I could have done this 15 years ago. Right.

But I had to create this person in order. Now I just want to give back to others and say, I understand. I understand. You're not wrong. You're not crazy. There's certain rules in life. We're all given the same, we're all dealt the same debt. There's only so many cards in the deck. So if you know what cards they're playing with, it's real easy to reshuffle it and to give them a winning hand, give them a straight flush because it's all based on these experiences.

you know, if I have a conversation with someone for 10 minutes, I have a pretty good bead on what's holding them back and why they don't do things. And it's usually a limiting language or it's a limiting focus. Physiology, you can see it in the talk and, I just don't know why I'm like this. Or, well, tell me about when you've done something exciting. my God, it was amazing. And now all of a sudden, you know, it changes. And so it's easy, it's not simple. Or I guess it's simple, but it's not easy.

We can always take control and in a world that people have dreamed of for centuries, we're spoiled because we have chat GPT, we have Facebook, we have Instagram. I'm talking to you right now through this mystical magical machine that no king on earth has ever had. It's insane. But it's also not enough. Yeah. And that's that's in between the years. But it's OK. It's also everything we want. And that's

true

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you know, it's an abundant garden, but you know, there are weeds and there is, poison plants and there's things that will bite us and hurt us, but it's our job just to do the best we can by each other and for each other. And, that is truly what I'm here to do in whatever way I can because I'm not here to sell Instagram courses. I'm not here to, uh, I'm not here to peddle any, uh, snake medicine.

I'm here to say look in the mirror, it's already there. And if I can find someone who believes in you and more importantly, find someone you believe in. And if I can guide you by all means, reach out, I'm honored to share your wins. I'm honored to help find you to the place that you feel like you need to be. And if not, find someone who does because it's a lot easier of a road when you have someone who has done it.

Wow. Now, you have a show coming up. Is that right? That's right.

That's I have a show coming up on the 29th. So it's a couple Saturdays from now. It's my first theater show, which I'm very excited about because I've done a lot of main on the street shows. And that's very interesting. I'm very fortunate that when I moved here to Middle Tennessee, there's a performance strong man named Tim Fox. He's one of the best. He's a monster of a man. He's a police officer out of

He's a Shelbyville and he's been a performance strongman for 11 years. And I saw him on Instagram and he was posting about how he had a church show. And so I reached out and I said, I'm in the area. I'd love to see the show. And we synced up and we became buddies and he said, Hey, we're going to go. What are you doing Saturday? So I got nothing going off. I he wanted to, you know, bend a horseshoe or, know, just jam about stuff. Cause we're like little school girls when we get together, it's like, me your nails. How many.

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Can you break?

Exactly. mean, it's just what we do. It's our thing. But he says, well, let's go do a street show in Nashville. And I said, a street show? Jesus. Like, just make a crowd out of thin air? I don't know if I can do that. says, no, we're going to go do that. And so that's what we did is, you you can sit there with a guitar and play, you know, music and people might gather around you. They might not. leave your hat out. It's different when you're bending a bar in your head.

or when you're bending a horseshoe or you're ripping a deck of cards, you don't just sit there with a pile of cards and start ripping them and hoping that you get a crowd. You gotta create the crowd. And so we, we gotta make the scene, but hey, we've got a strong man show coming up. You're gonna love it. It's gonna be about five minutes long. And so we did that. I've done about four or five of them and it's never easy, but it's always, I got a little, I got a hug from a little girl. She was probably three, four years old and I was at a mall in Kentucky.

And her dad said, you know, you want to give him a hug? it's why I do it. That's why I do it. It's just to get that level of emotion, to know that she saw the impossible that day meant everything. to your point about my show, I'm a little deeper than that. I don't want to just bend nails and entertain people. And I can, if I did, I'd hang out at bars. That'd be really easy. You know, hey, you want a $5 bet? You think I can do this or not? I really want to transform people.

And so I created Speaks of Strength as a show, as an interactive audience experience where there's call and response, there's guided visuals and meditation, there's internal work, you know, there's a lot of crowd work, but more importantly, it's compressed into the triad of how we move, how we focus, how we feel. It's a three act show, four acts technically. And it's feats tied into every single type. And I explained it in detail.

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And I'm very excited about it. It's coming up on the 29th at the Faker's Theater in Nashville. It's actually in Music City, which is like right on the outskirt. And it's gonna be a beautiful transformation. And it's going to be, I've always wanted to do a theater show and now I get to do it. And it's going to be my marketing moving forward. It's hard for me to write an email about what I do. It's easy for me to show a quick video about what I do, because then you get it.

depending on when this comes out, either we'll catch you at the next one or hopefully we catch you there. I'd love you both to be there if you can make it. It's gonna be an experience and I am very honored to be able to do it because this is who I am. This is what I'm here to do. And it's not just to be strong and to do a motivational talk. It's to truly live by example what it is that I'm trying to express to others.

Absolutely.

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I couldn't have done it alone. know, there's, there's a great song by Bob Dylan called I shall be released. And he says, I remember every face of everyone who got me here. And that's exactly how I feel. I honor, I do it. I don't just do it for me. It's that little boy in me who stood in the footsteps of giants. I honor them every day by what I do. I honor everybody who got me a little closer to make this happen. And I honor anybody and everybody who listens to this podcast, because if you can get one kernel of truth for your own life,

then it was worth it because you can always get your money back, especially in today's world. It's not hard. You just put out some angry videos and they'll be happy to give you your money back, but you can't get your time back. That's right. And so it's so important that you spend it on the right things, not doom scrolling and not ruminating on everything you've ever done wrong in life when you're sitting in bed and all that one time in sixth grade. No, no, no. Like spend your time on where it matters with the people that matter because this is it.

This is all we have. And that's why I'm so grateful to have this time with you because it's been transformational for me within this sphere. I've said things that I've never said to others that I will say during my live shows, but it was raw and it was real. And that's all I asked of others is be as raw and as real as you let yourself be. I love that.

I do too. We can definitely tell the passion in your heart. And so for the show, how can people get tickets?

You can check out.

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The there's, it's at the Faker's theater, F-A-E-K-E-R-S.com. I think it's forward slash piece of strength. actually, you might've seen me on the ad space, cause I put out some blanket ads on marketplace and things like that. But they're available there. You can check me out online as well, Clyde Nolette on the socials and they're right in my link. It's a small independent theater. It's got a.

It's got a history of all its own. was a this and then a that and now this and now it's a theater. Really beautiful, like really quirky kind of experience and setup. Or you can always just show up day of, you know, and you can make that work. It's gonna be an experience and it's gonna be the first of many. So I'm very excited about it.

And if anybody's interested to speak further with you, how would they go about doing that?

Well, please, this is the big one. Check out speaksofstrength.com and you'll see a little bit about what I do and much more shortened version than what we just talked about over the last hour and change. But you'll see that there's a link right there just for a results call. So if you just want to, there's no money, there's none of that stuff. I want to know that we can work together and I want you to know that you can work on yourself with or without me. And so we just, there's a questionnaire where we find out what's limiting.

What do need to grow into? And most importantly, why do you need to change? Because that's called leverage. If you know why you have to change, you're going to change. You'll find a way. It's like an ant. It's the ant philosophy. If the ant can't go under it, it's going to go over. If it can't get over, it's going to go around it. Ants don't stop. It's a heck of a philosophy to have. But it's not one that just comes overnight. I didn't just start ripping decks of cards and then in the steel. I dreamed about it forever.

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Stop.

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And then I found out that actions speak a lot louder than dreams. And I honestly just want everyone to achieve their dreams. And if I can change one life or I can change many lives, it's irrelevant. Because if I can change one life, then they're going to go on to inspire someone who can change many.

wow. I think we had therapy today. Clyde, you're amazing. you're, you're my new favorite friend. so just knowing, you know, all that you, you've gone through all that you've learned and so much that you've spoken about definitely resonates with me and I'm sure everybody, you know, some piece of that has resonated with.

Yeah, right, right.

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everybody. Because we all deal with self-doubt, we all deal with a lot of issues in the past. Nobody has a perfect life. Even Jesus had people that were against him, and he overcame it all. you know, I don't want to not go into spiritual here, but I totally believe that God gave us the ability to

change our thoughts, to change our ways of life. And that's why the brain is plastic. It changes. It adapts. It's just, are you willing to put in that work? Are you willing to put in the time? And you have. And I love your passion. I love what you are doing. And absolutely, I want to go to that show.

Mindy knows I geek out over all this stuff too. But, yeah, if we're in town, I want to go.

Yeah, it sounds great. We'd love to have you. the thing about I love how you said that we all have challenges because I don't know if you've ever been to a movie, but let me paint you a picture of a movie. Movie starts out. Guy's life, gal's life, it's going amazing. Great relationship. Business is booming. Friendships are amazing. Down the middle of the movie hits. Things are amazing. Relationships are great. Finances, best relationship with their kid.

Boom, end of the movie hits. Everything's great, nothing's changed. Who in their right mind is gonna see that movie? Right, nobody. Nobody. Where's the climax? Where's the story? Where's the arc? Where's the character development? And that's the big point is, you know, we can see our challenges as we can take them personal, horrible way to do it. We can take it as a journey. That's the best way to do it. And I just...

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For anyone listening, I want you to know that you are the miracle that you've been waiting for. But miracles, they don't just fall out of the sky. Miracles are summoned by daily decision, by a daily bread of focus, of physiology, and of the words we use to describe life to ourselves. And if you're new to positive self-talk,

I'm going introduce you to a friend of mine. Now, he's a little engine, but he sure could. I think I can. I think I can. I think I can. It's silly, but it's true. He used his physiology to pull that train up the mountain. He used his focus to deliver to the children and he used his language to push himself through. It's three simple ingredients to whatever it is you want out of life. And so I say, go out and bend your world.

Go out and bend your limitations and I can't wait to see what you do with it.

Wow. Man, I'm energized. We could keep talking and I hate to even wrap this up, but definitely thank you for sharing everything that you have. This has been an absolute joy talking with you. It really has. I, you know, like I said, I'm going to be at the show if we can, if we're in town.

It's been a great episode.

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But I, and you live here locally so that people know. So please, if you are interested, reach out to Clyde and join us at the show and see how it impacts your life. just what little bit, I mean, you've done a lot more than I ever have as far as going, you I love Tony Robbins too. I've listened to a lot of his stuff. Yes, his show or his

His events are expensive, but everybody that's gone says it was well worth it. And the.

I guess the change, like you can't really put a value on that change, right? But anyway, thank you. Thank you. Thank you for sharing and thank you for going out and helping people change their lives. It really means a lot. can definitely tell that you've got the heart for it and you truly believe what you say, which means a lot. You're not just in it for, you know, profits and you know, the,

the style, the living of what it brings, but I mean, the money, sorry. But thank you for what you had shared with us today.

And I will say the reason I did this, well, there's a million reasons, of course, but the reason I'm gonna choose in the moment is because I do personally believe that everybody on earth would benefit from a deep dive in personal development with the best in the world, but I know that they won't. So I said, how do I do that? How do I give them you know, a little Costco taste test? How do I be someone who has a free sample? And that's part of the reason why I created Speaks of Strength is

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It's an hour and a half, you know, and it's cheap. if you, don't expect you to invest four or five days. I expect you to invest an hour and a half. And if that inspires you run with it. I don't care where you go to, but run with it. And that's why we entertain and power and educate all in one sphere. And I just want to say, God bless you both and thank you for this opportunity. And anyone listening, this is by design.

It wasn't by coincidence. You're hearing this message because you're being called for something bigger. And I can't wait to see what you do.

Very true.

Well thank you so much for giving us just a glimpse into your world and your story. We appreciate you so much for sharing.

Yeah. And everybody that's listening, thank you for joining in. And I know, I'm not going to hope, I know that you are taking away at least one golden nugget. There's so much that he shared. Like I said, you're a walking quote factory. I, this is amazing. But thank you everybody for joining us today. And as always, please remember that you matter.

Speaker 1 (01:18:11.8)

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